You may know Gillian Anderson as Scully in The X Files. Or perhaps as DSI Stella Gibson in The Fall. Maybe you saw her award-winning turn as Blanche DuBois in A Streetcar Named Desire at the Young Vic. Whichever way you may think you know Gillian Anderson, you will come to know her as Co-Author of WE, written with her close friend, journalist Jennifer Nadel.
Imagine a sisterhood – across all creeds and cultures. An unspoken agreement that we, as women, will support and encourage one another. That we will remember we don't know what struggles each of us may be facing elsewhere in our lives and so we will assume that each of us is doing our best…
So begins WE: an inspiring, empowering and provocative manifesto for change. Change which we can all effect, one woman at a time. Change which provides a crucial and timely antidote to the 'have-it-all' Superwoman culture and instead focusses on what will make each and every one of us happier and more free. Change which provides an answer to the nagging sense of 'is that it?' that almost all of us can succumb to when we wake in the dead of night.
Written by two friends who for the last decade have stumbled along together, learning, failing, crying, laughing and trying again – WE is a not a theoretical treatise but instead a rallying cry to create a life that has greater meaning and purpose. Combining tools which are practical, psychological and spiritual, it is both a process and a vision for a more fulfilling way of living. And a truly inspiring vision of a happier, more emotionally rewarding future we can all create together…
WE is our book of the month and to celebrate International Women’s Day, here is an excerpt - two exercises for you to practise and manifest change in your life, starting today.
A New Script:
- Pick one of the negative messages that you give yourself. Write it down so you can see it for what it is: mean, unkind, negative, unhelpful. The problem is your brain usually doesn’t see it that way.
- Underneath the sentence you have written, write this: ‘My name is [______________]. I am a good and kind person. I do not need to please everyone. I do enough. I am enough’. Say out loud the new message you have given yourself. Every time you notice a negative thought coming into your head, repeat your new message until the negative thought has gone.
- Each morning and each evening for the next 14 days, when you brush your teeth, look in the mirror and say your message out loud to yourself three times. Look yourself in the eyes and say it tenderly, as you would to someone you care about.
Your Inner Circle:
- Draw three large circles, one inside the other, on a piece of paper. In the outer circle write down all activities that almost always make you feel bad. Perhaps it’s looking at photos of an ex’s new partner on their social media page or going on a crash diet or binge drinking.
- In the middle circle write down behaviours that sometimes make you feel good and sometimes bad. For example, surfing shopping sites or being in touch with a member of your family who causes you concern.
- In the inner circle jot down behaviours that make you feel great. Meditating, exercising, laughing, playing with a child, walking in nature. Write down as many as you can.
- Take a look at your map. That inner circle is where you’re happiest, safest and most fulfilled. Your aim is to spend as much time there as possible.
- The middle circle are activities to do when you’re feeling emotionally robust.
Your goal is to stay out of the outer circle altogether.
For more information on the WE movement, visit: www.wewomeneverywhere.org/